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The Next Phase: Chronic or Thriving?
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

The next phase… what now?Has the crisis in your marriage passed… but you aren’t sure where things are now?

Well, that would put you in good company!  I have been asking for listener questions, and noticed this was the theme for quite a few.

What’s the theme? The immediate crisis has passed.  The separation or divorce is off the table.  The affair is over.  The spouse has returned to the home or bedroom.  For most, communication was much improved.  For many, lots of things had improved.

Several told me how they had used my program and were closer now than ever before.

But….

And this is where there is often some diversity of answers.  Things felt stuck/stagnant/in limbo.  Physical contact and connection was still missing.  Trust was still struggling.

In other words, they had left the crisis phase of things, but were now in a chronic phase. The marriage was not fixed.  It just was no longer on life-support.

So, what now?

Well, I discuss it in this episode of the podcast.  You can listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES:
Crisis and Chronic
Dangers of Tea Leaves
3 C’s Approach
My Books
My Save The Marriage System

Why “Limbo” is a Lie
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

Are you feeling like you are stuck in limbo?Do you feel like you are stuck in limbo?  That crazy spot where you can’t move forward, but aren’t ending things?  Is it a spouse who has you stuck there?

Well, that was the situation for “J.”  He wrote me because his spouse could not decide on whether to stay or go, work on things or walk away.

He told me he was stuck in Limbo, didn’t know what to do, and didn’t know how to get his spouse to work on the relationship.

What should he do??

I respond to J’s question in this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast.  And it may just be where you find yourself, too.  Not able to move forward, but not ready to walk away.

How do you deal with “Limbo”?  We discuss it.  Listen below.

RELATED RESOURCES:
3 C’s of Saving Your Marriage
3 A’s in Your Control
3 Levels of Connection
Save The Marriage System