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“Don’t Listen To This” – Reverse Psychology
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Will reverse psychology really save a marriage? Can this tip or trick help you stop a divorce?Have you ever noticed how often we want an easy answer?

Sometimes, people ask for my help, and I start giving some guidelines, offering my System.  It turns out they didn’t want that.  They tell me, “No, can you just give me a couple of tips?”

I can give tips on how to boil an egg better, how to keep your charging cord from shredding, and even a tip on a simple exercise routine.  But a “tip” or hint that will save a marriage?  Not likely.

But if you look around, you will see plenty of these tips and hints.  Simple things that promise to save your marriage.  Tricks, really.  Like, say, Reverse Psychology.

Sounds awesome.  Just say the opposite of what you mean, and your spouse will suddenly change directions and decide to NOT divorce.  Like magic.  Or at least like a trick.

We love those tricks.  Why?  Because then, we don’t really have to change anything.  We don’t have to look at the REAL issues.  We don’t have to fix the underlying problems.  Wed don’t have to really change.  We just, well, “trick” someone.

Except for one thing:  it doesn’t work.

Let me tell you why.  Listen in on this week’s podcast.

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The Trick to Saving Your Marriage. Careful. . . .: #41 Save Your Marriage Podcast
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Look in the mirror while you save your marriage.Are you working to save your marriage?  Are you trying to figure out the trick to doing that?

Be careful.

Yesterday, I sent an email out to a group, asking what their “burning question” was about how to save a marriage.

Within minutes, the emails started coming in.  By the end of the night, hundreds of emails were in my inbox.  They are still arriving today.

I asked the question for one simple reason:  I wanted to know what people might want to hear about or read about in my articles and podcasts.

There were some common themes about affairs and disconnected marriages.  There were concerns on how to communicate with a distant or angry spouse.  There were questions about how to approach issues like money, children, finances, forgiveness, and household responsibilities.

And there were questions about “tricks” or techniques to short-cut the process.  We all want that, don’t we?  The diet industry makes a fortune each year, parading out the latest tip or trick to turn that fat to muscle.

We all want the short-cuts, the most direct route to anything.  This is especially true about painful things — saving your marriage being one of those.

In this week’s podcast, I wanted to talk about how to save your marriage, but without falling into the “trap” of a “trick.”  Sometimes, those “tricks” really run counter to who we truly are.  We find ourselves making ethical and moral “adjustments” that leave us unable to feel good about looking in the mirror.

There are 5 points to keep in mind, as you work to save your marriage.  Listen and learn those 5 points.

Let me know if you would add others in the comments area below!

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