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When Is It Too Toxic?
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When is a marriage too toxic to save?You probably know that I’m on the side of your marriage.  I’m all about saving a marriage.

But does that mean that EVERY marriage will be saved, or even should be saved?

No.

First, there are times when BOTH people want to leave the marriage.  At that point, there is nothing that WILL save the marriage.  There has to be energy from AT LEAST one person, in order for anything to change.

Second, there are times when the toxicity level is high, creating a toxic situation for the spouses.  In fact, there are 3 times when it MAY be too toxic.  And there is 1 time when it absolutely too toxic to work on the marriage.

Let me tell you 5 symptoms of elevated toxicity, 3 times you may need to step back, and 1 time you definitely need to step back from the marriage.

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Is It “Too Little, Too Late”?
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Is it "too little, too late"? Maybe. Maybe not.You start working to save your marriage.  You are working on rebuilding the connection.  You have been trying to change and improve yourself.  You’ve been focused.  You’ve been putting in the effort.

And then, your spouse says, “Too little, too late.”

The bubble is burst, the sail’s deflated.  Another kick in the gut.

And you feel like giving up.  If it is hopeless, why even try?

Because I don’t think it is hopeless.  I have seen MANY situations where a spouse says this, and the marriage is saved.  (And yes, I have seen times when a spouse says this, and it turns out to be accurate.)  There is one problem:  you can’t know on this side of the crisis.

Sometimes, it is not “too little,” and it is not “too late.”  It just isn’t over yet.  The work is only underway, not completed.

I give 5 steps to moving beyond “too little, too late” in this podcast training.  Listen below.

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