“Is It All About Being The ‘Nice Guy/Gal’?” – NOPE
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Many of my podcasts come from questions from listeners (if you have an idea for a podcast, email me here). And that is absolutely true this week. In fact, it is from an email I received.
The question was fair. So, I decided to respond for everyone to hear.
Here is the basic question: “Is your System really just about being the ‘nice guy’? If so, doesn’t that mean you get disrespected?” (I will read the email, minus identifying info, in the episode.)
So, yes, I do think being a nice person is a good start. But no, that is not the real point of my System. Being civil is a building block, a starting point.
Being a jerk is rarely a good start on rebuilding.
But the nice, that is just about being civil. Not a “push-over.” In fact, I believe having boundaries and setting them is critical. But so is having a high standard for yourself.
My whole System? Nope.
A good starting point? Absolutely. It always is.
But not if you just allow yourself to be walked on.
Listen to this episode for more details and explanation.
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