September 2018 – Save The Marriage: Even if only YOU want to!

What Happy Couples Do Differently – Series

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

September 26, 2018

Every marriage has problems. Every single one.

But about 50% figure out a way to stay together, even when there are problems.

And then there are those happy couples. The ones who have it dialed in, figured out, and are happy.

Here’s the thing: success always leaves a trail. If you want to move to that place, to have a marriage that is happy and rewarding, you can learn for those that made it.

In the What Happy Couples Do Differently series, I discuss 11 things that happy couples know and do differently.

Listen to the episodes below to follow the trail to a happy marriage:

What Happy Couples Do Differently About Conflict

What Happy Couples Do Differently About Connection

What Happy Couples Do Differently About Companionship

If you are ready to make a shift and become a happy couple, too, it is time to grab my Save The Marriage System. Discover what happened, how to shift, and how to build a marriage you BOTH will treasure and protect. Become a Happy Couple!

CLICK HERE TO GRAB THE SAVE THE MARRIAGE SYSTEM

The Survival Series

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

September 19, 2018

Sometimes, it is all you can do to survive, to hang on.

But here is something I have taken to heart from my jiu jitsu training: If you are not losing, you are winning! (Thanks to the Gracie brothers for pointing that out!) In other words, for many things in life, if it doesn’t take you down, you can keep on going.

You just need to know HOW to survive, HOW to get through. With the least amount of damage and the most potential for positive outcome.

Which is the roots behind my Survival Series. In this series of 9 episodes, I cover many of the common scenarios in a troubled marriage. The aim: minimize damage. The secondary goal: move toward a better place.

Click the links below to access each of the trainings.

Surviving Separation

Surviving Infidelity

Surviving Conflict

Surviving The Golden Hour

Surviving Mistakes and Backslides

Surviving Empty Nest/Mid Life Crisis

Surviving Disconnection

Relationship Fears and Insecurities

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

September 12, 2018

Fears. They can certainly derail us humans!

A few episodes ago, I noted some fears that can sabotage your efforts to save your marriage.

But what about relationship fears? Just those basic fears and insecurities that we all carry with us in relationships?

Yep, we all have them. 2 basic fears. And those 2 fears? They pull against each other. One can trigger the other in couples. We all have both, but tend to have a tendency to one fear or the other. And when that fear is triggered, it often triggers the opposite fear in a spouse.

Which, by the way, increases the fear in the other.

Those two fears?

Fear of Intimacy
Fear of Abandonment

Let’s talk about what those fears are about, why we have them, what triggers them, and why it becomes such an issue in marriage.

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Building Your Support Team

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

September 5, 2018

Support. We all need it. But we need the right kind of support.

If you are in the midst of a marriage crisis, you might feel all alone, just you against the world (and your spouse). Well, you aren’t against your spouse. And the world is not against you.

It can feel that way, though.

Which is why you need to find your support team.

In the last episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I discussed 5 ways to deal with the emotional crisis of a marriage crisis. And one way was through support — at which point I realized I had not previously discussed how to get support.

So, we cover that today.

I suggest you have 3 layers to your support. So, I discuss the 3 layers and how to manage each layer. Listen below for how to build your support team.

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