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3 Turning Points of Saving Your Marriage

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By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

March 13, 2019

Many times, people contact me to tell me that their marriage is… well… continuing to spiral down, in spite of their efforts.

Over the years, I have noted some “turning points,” when things often start turning around. And I want to share 3 of these turning points with you.

Here is the good news: all 3 turning points I note are 100% within your control. Yes, there are other events and actions that can also turn things (or at least, start turning things). It is not JUST these 3 turning points. There are others.

But these turning points I chose to highlight are ones you can choose at any time and at any point.

To be clear, just because you make a change, that does not guarantee that things WILL turn around. (I would be able to retire, if that were the case.) It’s just that these actions often are the turning points in the effort to save your marriage.

Will making the 3 turns guarantee a saved marriage? No. But they may just make a shift. Playing the odds, doesn’t it make sense to give the 3 turning points a chance for change?

Listen to the podcast episode below for the 3 Turning Points.

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Do You Choose Your Response?

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

July 20, 2016

Have you ever been sucked into a situation or argument, then realized your actions were not what you wanted?

There is that split second, that pause, where you get to choose your response.

Many people miss that split second, telling themselves, “I had no choice. I was just reacting.”

But deep down, we know that is not the case. We have a choice on how to respond. Miss that choice and regret the reaction.

How do you choose?

Let’s talk about that in this week’s podcast. Listen below.

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5 Rules For Apologizing: #26 Save The Marriage Podcast

By: Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

January 29, 2014

Apologies. We all do it — but do we do it right?

I remember being held by the scruff of my neck, forced to apologize to my brother. I was neither apologetic nor conciliatory. I was, however, captive. So I apologized.

It was a good idea. It is just that my heart wasn’t in it.

And sometimes, even when we mean it, we mess it up, just because of how we do an apology.

In this week’s podcast, we take a look at apologies and how to offer one. This is a good follow up to the podcast on forgiveness.

Let me propose 5 rules for giving an apology and why an apology is so important.

What rules would you add? What points did I miss? Please leave a comment below.

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