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September 2024

Principle: Connect, Don’t Crowd
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

The Connection Principle: why connection is so important in a marriage… and how to restore it correctly.Connection is so important for a marriage.  When connection is cut off, the relationship falters.  When a marriage is disconnected, the marriage is at risk.

But many people think they are connecting… and they are actually crowding.

Crowding, in a struggling marriage, is as toxic as disconnecting.

Does it feel like a tightrope?  Well, it really isn’t.

As long, that is, as you understand the underlying principle:  Connect, Don’t Crowd.

In this episode of the Save The Marriage Podcast, I give you access to one of ten principles I cover in my VIP program (an advanced program for those who have my System, but want to be more effective or need more help).

Resources in the VIP program are generally restricted only to VIP members, but I wanted to make sure you don’t fall into the “crowding trap.”  I see it far too often.

Especially for people who have realized they hit the Pause Button on their marriage… and are trying to reconnect.

Listen in to find how to connect without crowding.  Don’t fall into the trap!

 

RELATED RESOURCES:
Pause Button Marriage
Connection is the Life Blood
Connection Tools
Save The Marriage System

3 Turning Points To Act On
150 150 Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

3 Turning Points in saving your marriage.Many times, people contact me to tell me that their marriage is… well… continuing to spiral down, in spite of their efforts.

Over the years, I have noted some “turning points,” when things often start turning around.  And I want to share 3 of these turning points with you.

Here is the good news:  all 3 turning points I note are 100% within your control.  Yes, there are other events and actions that can also turn things (or at least, start turning things).  It is not JUST these 3 turning points.  There are others.

But these turning points I chose to highlight are ones you can choose at any time and at any point.

To be clear, just because you make a change, that does not guarantee that things WILL turn around.  (I would be able to retire, if that were the case.)  It’s just that these actions often are the turning points in the effort to save your marriage.

Will making the 3 turns guarantee a saved marriage?  No.  But they may just make a shift.  Playing the odds, doesn’t it make sense to give the 3 turning points a chance for change?

Listen to the podcast episode below for the 3 Turning Points.

RELATED RESOURCES
Chasing Won’t Work
Response-Able
Show Up
Will YOUR Marriage Be Saved?

Your Fail Point
Marriage Fail Points Book
Save The Marriage System