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November 2017

3 Ways You Diss Your Marriage
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3 ways you are dissing your marriage and hurting your relationship.I am way too uncool to ever use “Diss” in a conversation.

That said, I will drop it into a headline, because I see too many couples “dissing” their relationship, without even meaning to.

Distraction, Disinterest, and Disconnection lead to Disrespect of your relationship.

And it often becomes habit, usually without you meaning to.

The bad news is, these 3 ways you “diss” a relationship eat away at the foundations.

The good news is that once you know what you are doing, you can change it. Even turn it around.

Learn how you are dissing your marriage, and how to stop in this week’s podcast.

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RESOURCES:
Power of Connection
Marriage Crisis Mistakes to Avoid
Why Your Efforts May Be Failing
Save The Marriage System

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Surviving Disconnection
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How to survive and correct disconnection in your marriage, so that you can save your marriage.Survival has been the theme for the last few weeks.  Not just surviving, but overcoming and thriving.  We’ve covered separation, infidelity, conflict, the “Golden Hour,” mistakes, and Empty Nest/Mid Life Crisis.  This week, we end the series on surviving as we turn our attention to disconnection.

Really, in many ways, disconnection is the underlying issue.  It leads to separation and infidelity.  It amplifies conflict.  It precipitates the crisis.  It contributes to the mistakes.  And an empty nest/midlife is a marriage crisis because of the disconnection.

Which makes it so important to cover this week.

If you want to resolve a marriage crisis, you have to survive the disconnection — and create renewed connection.

Connection is the lifeblood of a relationship, and especially a marriage.  As the connection goes, so goes the relationship — unless you solve the disconnection.

Let’s talk about why the disconnection is such an issue and how to solve it.

RELATED RESOURCES
Surviving Separation
Surviving Infidelity
Surviving Conflict
Surviving The Golden Hour
Surviving Mistakes and Backslides
Surviving Empty Nest/Mid Life Crisis
You Need A Plan
Love Languages
Save The Marriage System

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Surviving Empty Nest and MidLife
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Survive the empty nest and a midlife crisis -- a thriving marriage.If you followed the common pattern, you got married and some short time later, you had a child.  And perhaps another (or a few). You likely went from “spouse” to “parent” in a fairly short amount of time.

The years fly by (I know — mine are both in their 20’s and out of the house).  You blink and they are leaving.

You blink again, and you realize you and your spouse are faced with an empty nest. And maybe at the same time, a mid life crisis. In fact, sometimes, they are intertwined. The role you held is disappearing. While you will always be concerned about and care for your kids, they might not want so much “parenting.”

What happens now?

For many, this is the beginning of a marriage crisis. In reality, the crisis was long brewing underneath the surface. Timing now conspires to bring empty nest, mid life crisis, and marriage crisis to the forefront.

How do you survive?

Can you thrive?

You WILL survive.  And you CAN thrive.

Let’s talk about how in this week’s Save The Marriage Podcast episode.

RELATED RESOURCES:
Mid Life Marriage Crisis
The Importance of Connection
Being a Team
Your Guide To Saving Your Marriage

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Surviving Mistakes and Backslides
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How to survive mistakes and backslides in your efforts to save your marriage.It happens.  You are trying to save your marriage and. . . you make a mistake.  You violate your own plan.

And things take a slide backwards.

Maybe you aren’t even sure if it is possible to get back on-track.

Most of the time, the answer is “absolutely.”

This week, I cover how to recover from a mistake, how to stop the backsliding, and how to start moving forward again.

If you violated one of my 5 Things To Avoid Doing, maybe even before you knew about them (and even after you learned about them), you can still recover and start moving forward.

If you decided to eat better. . . then you hit the dessert buffet, what do you do?  Toss in your plan? Or get going on your plan?  Same here.

But let’s talk about how to not just survive the mistakes, but get going again.  Listen below.

Survive Series:
Surviving Separation
Surviving Conflict
Surviving the Golden Hour

RELATED RESOURCES:
You Need A Plan
Reverse Psychology
No Contact
Save The Marriage System

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Surviving the “Golden Hour”
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Surviving the "Golden Hour" of a marriage crisis.In situations of traumatic injury, first responders refer to the “Golden Hour” as the first hour (or less) after injury where proper medical care leads to the best chance of survival.

I ran into the concept in first aid training as a teenager.  But I saw it in action when I was a hospital chaplain at the beginning of my career.  Severe injuries with quick response often survived, when lesser injuries that were not so quickly addressed led to higher mortality.

Guess what?

It also applies to a marriage crisis.

Except it isn’t really an hour.  It might be days or weeks.  But what matters is how you respond in that early crisis time.

In this week’s podcast, we look at the best ways to survive that Golden Hour with the greatest change of marital survival (and thriving).

RELATED RESOURCES
The Importance of Connection
Don’t Do Everything
Have A Plan
A System To Helpaucom

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